I celebrate you today. I honor you for the brave choices you have made, the sleepless nights you endured, the sometimes exhausting, frustrating, overwhelming, and impossible to always get the right job of being a good mother.
I honor you for the times you chose the hard thing over the easy thing because you believed it would benefit your child more and I hug you for the times when choosing the hard path felt too hard, so you made choices where you feel like you let you and your child down.. whether it was a fleeting moment when you screamed at them instead of resolving something in the calm way or something much bigger than that which causes you guilt, grief or even self-loathing.
It ain’t for the faint of heart this mother role, but it’s one that I’m sure that you, like me, wouldn’t give up for the world!
In my experience, the best thing we can do as a mother to help our kids is to work on our self-worth. Children learn what they live and the greatest gift they can get in their lives is good self-worth.
The best way to model it? No longer tolerate anything that the version of you with high self-worth would not tolerate.
- With high self-worth, you’re not going to allow destructive people and situations into your life. You’re not going to be available for not being treated well, not being listened to, not being respected or validated for how you are feeling.
- With high self-worth, you’ll march to the sound of your own drum instead of someone else’s because you don’t need to get them to like you. You are too comfortable in your own skin.
- With high self-worth, you’ll value being alone and working on overcoming loneliness more than you’ll value being with people whom you deep down feel terrible with and terrible about yourself for being with.
- With high self-worth, you don’t wait or depend on someone else to make you happy and then blame them if they don’t. Instead, you believe that you can create the life you truly want to live, you are clear about what that looks like and you value yourself enough to go after it.
- With high self-worth, you embrace discipline because it helps you consistently show up in the way you want to. That feels good and you want and deserve to feel good.
- With high self-worth, you don’t dwell on the mistakes you made or the things you believed you could have done better as a mother. You say sorry if you need to, you treat yourself with compassion and then you move on, committing to doing better in the future because that feels better to you.
- With high self-worth, you care about how you feel physically so you feed your body with good healthy food and drink. You ingest the less healthy things in moderation and if it feels too hard to do, you get help because you value yourself enough to overcome something destructive that is holding power over you.
- With high self-worth, you manage your money confidently. You are on top of your accounts and make sensible, empowering decisions on how to spend your money. You invest in yourself to support your growth, to support your feeling better because you value yourself enough to do that. You prioritize it more of things like a branded handbag or having a good outward status when you have to make a spending choice because an investment in yourself is something that can never be taken away from you. It appreciates instead of depreciates in value.
So today, dear mother, my wish for you is that you appreciate yourself enough to no longer tolerate what’s not working in your life, that you choose to believe instead that you are worthy of having the life you truly want and that you know that you have every right to go after it one step at a time.
Model that for your children. Show them what it looks like to be a woman that holds her head up high and confidently says “this is my life and I’m ready to lead it with love, love for myself firstly, and unconditional love for everyone else in my life. I don’t need them to be any different than they are. I’ll be freely me and they can be freely them.”
Say it loud and say it proud “I’m done with negative people and situations, I’m done with blaming anyone else for how I feel or how my life is right now. I take full responsibility and I choose to make it great because I am worth it!”
Happy Mother’s day!
P.S. An important part of valuing yourself and being in control of your life and your destiny is managing your money well. Want my help with that? I’m currently offering Money Makeover VIP days. See the link in the comments for details. A large part of what we work on that day will be self-worth so that you value yourself enough to get your money in order. I’m offering 10% off for Mother’s day. Message me to get the discount.
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